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Original post made by Questioning momie, Castlewood, on Mar 6, 2009

at what age do we start letting our kids have sexual relationships with their partners??? i'm have two kids in high school and the question is beginning to arise

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Posted by Concerned Dad
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Mar 6, 2009 at 2:39 pm

The way I was brought up, after you get married. I don't know if that will work in P'Town. :)

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Posted by Steff
a resident of Avila
on Mar 6, 2009 at 2:40 pm

Wow, this is going to get interesting.............

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Posted by Stacey
a resident of Amberwood/Wood Meadows
on Mar 6, 2009 at 2:50 pm

I don't think this is a serious question. I think this is posted by a teenager trying to mock the adults on this forum who were having a discussion regarding texting.

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Posted by Cindy
a resident of Country Fair
on Mar 6, 2009 at 3:12 pm

I say let them do what they want, and let them learn from their mistakes

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Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Mar 6, 2009 at 3:28 pm


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Posted by Mandy
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Mar 7, 2009 at 8:45 pm

The fact is that many, MANY teenagers in high school have sex. I wonder how many parents are unaware of the fact that their teenagers are having sex. It's easy to find a house where the parents aren't home or they are but they leave the kids completely unattended. It's common for a group of kids to have sex in the same room, there's a couple in this corner, and another one in that corner. The kids still get home on time for curfew, they don't need to be sleeping over to have sex.
Look at TV, movies and magazines, we are practically telling kids to have sex. And they are.

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Posted by Jack
a resident of Canyon Meadows
on Mar 8, 2009 at 5:55 pm

Hey Mandy, are you accuseing us parents as not being aware of our kids????? if you are I must say that I am a very good parent

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Posted by Another Gatetree Resident
a resident of Amador Valley High School
on Mar 9, 2009 at 5:43 pm

The fact that a PARENT needs to ask this question on a forum is troubling. These are likely the same parents wanting us to fund a parcel tax to continue educating the kids they brought into this world.

Birds and Bees -- pretty elementary.

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Posted by really?
a resident of Downtown
on Mar 10, 2009 at 9:40 am

We are really going to have a discussion about at what age we tell our kids it is OK to have sex? That is a decision that THEY have to live with and THEY have to make. We should guide them and discuss the consequences of sex but to even pretend that we have some control over that issue is taking the responsibility out of the kids hands. Your kid knows full well that there is nothing you can do about it so why set yourself up and prove to your kid that they are in charge. You could and should lay down rules that don't make feel right to you. Such as "not in my house".....because it is your house and you are in control of that. But, to pretend that you can create some "magic date".....big mistake. We need to be teaching kids how to make decisions and make them responsible for their choices. If we make it too easy on them, they will never grow from their struggles. And, they do not grow from your struggles.

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