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It's Unity Day in Pleasanton, wear orange

City recognizing October as Bullying Prevention Month

Pleasanton city officials are recognizing October as Bullying Prevention Month and asking residents to wear orange today, this year's Unity Day.

The action is being taken to promote kindness, inclusion and acceptance throughout the city, according to Susan Andrade-Wax, director of Community Services in Pleasanton.

"Sixty-four percent of children who are bullied don't report it, and we believe this has become an issue we must all address," Susan Andrade-Wax said."We all know change doesn't happen overnight, but with so many unreported cases of bullying, we need to be vigilant in our ongoing efforts to raise awareness and empower people to stand up to bullies."

The city is asking residents to change their profile pictures on social media to the "Pleasanton Unites Against Bully" jpg, use the #UnityDay2015 #PTownUnites hashtags on Twitter and visit the Unity Day website, http://ptownlife.org/unity-day-home-page/

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10 people like this
Posted by Tom
a resident of Castlewood
on Oct 21, 2015 at 9:22 am

These types of politically-correct generated movements put me off. Is 'bullying' really that much of an issue? I don't think so. I think a lot of this 'movement' began when some gay kids were picked on in school and liberals were trying to protect them. It is also a handy mechanism to promote a cause as oppose to correct real problems. Part of growing up entails a certain amount of how to handle oneself when someone is aggressive. Boys, in particular, have to learn to be men. There's too much promoting that everyone is a victim or could be.


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Posted by Citizen
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Oct 21, 2015 at 9:38 am

Progressive Democrat Liberalism is the science of vague assumptions, based on debatable figures, taken from inconclusive experiments, preformed with interments of problematic accuracy, by persons with doubtful reliability and questionable mentality.


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Posted by BobB
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Oct 21, 2015 at 10:21 am

@Citizen, @Tom,

It's time to move into the twenty-first century and stop living in the past. Sorry to hear that you are "put off", but bullying is a problem, and it is getting solved with the help of programs like this. We don't allow husbands to beat their wives anymore. We don't put up with cruelty to animals anymore. We're eliminating institutionalized racism and sexism. And we stand up to bullies. Let's work together on this.


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Posted by John Birch
a resident of Birdland
on Oct 21, 2015 at 10:21 am

Yes! It's not called survival of the fittest for nothing! Our social systems Must reflect the natural order of the jungle, because cultural artifacts like learning how to solve problems without violence and respect for others who are different from you are just namby-pamby mumbo-jumbo, and argle-bargle. They even lead to respect for the rule of law, which has no place in our schools! There should be a free market in everybody's lunch money, and to the playground victors go the cafeteria spoils.

Not only that, but 'citizen's' recitation of somebody else's sentence he didn't understand is right on-the-money -- especially the part about those "preformed interments of problematic accuracy!" Those interments should be spontaneous but accurate, by gawd, or it's problematic for everyone -- that's what graveyards are for, after all.

What IS this country coming to??


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Posted by Jack
a resident of Downtown
on Oct 21, 2015 at 10:22 am

@ Tom
Bullying is real, and it does need to be addressed. In the old days, if somebody was acting like a jerk, you met up with them "after school" and beat them up! Not really in most cases, but the threat of an actual physical confrontation or fist-fight, was enough to resolve most issues and we all grew up to be fine. Kids today don't even know what a fist-fight is!
Nowadays they go on social media, and other electronic means and they gang up on kids and say and write truly mean and hurtful things.
The bullies know that they aren't going to get caught in most cases, and even if they do, they know they're not going to get punched. Only if it escalates to the police department level do you get their attention. By then it's usually gone too far...


11 people like this
Posted by BobB
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Oct 21, 2015 at 10:24 am

"Part of growing up entails a certain amount of how to handle oneself when someone is aggressive."

That is what this program is about, dealing with those situations.


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Posted by Cholo
a resident of Livermore
on Oct 21, 2015 at 11:59 am

Students learn how to participate in positive group action and to respect the physical,emotional,and spiritual boundaries of others. I say YES to ORANGE! HOORAY! VIVA!


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Posted by Julie
a resident of Birdland
on Oct 21, 2015 at 1:18 pm

@Tom - let me guess; you were a bully who picked on kids you thought were gay. Sorry that your homophobia isn't tolerated anymore. Sorry that Pleasanton promotes inclusivity and a safe school environment. I can understand how that must bug you.


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Posted by Tom
a resident of Castlewood
on Oct 21, 2015 at 5:36 pm

Let me understand the 'rules' that many of you suggest for how social issues should be defined:

1. All social 'ills' can be defined as between victims and oppressors.

2. When given 'victim' status, you are absolved of most responsibility for your situation, can blame others and receive sympathetic attention. Most of the compliant media and follower citizenry will support you.

3. When you are a oppressor you are to blame, can be condemned and called names.

If you are happy with this approach, continue to believe it. There are, though, a myriad of groups who have been granted victim status and the approach hasn't worked. And I'd suggest your belief lacks honest thought.


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Posted by BobB
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Oct 21, 2015 at 5:59 pm

@Tom,

As to your 1, 2, and 3; No, you have it wrong.


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Posted by Pleasanton was nice forty years ago
a resident of Castlewood
on Oct 21, 2015 at 7:26 pm

So let me get this straight. Julie bullies Tom by making outlandish assumptions about him being a bully on a blog about anti bullying. And. 11 people like it. It appears this orange day thing ain't workin


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Posted by Ed
a resident of Pleasanton Meadows
on Oct 22, 2015 at 8:10 am

Ha! PWN40YA hit it right on the head.

I actually have to agree with some of Tom's comments. It's true that a lot of things are learned in the school yard that teach you how to handle yourself in life. Despite all the meetings, assemblies, workshops,etc it's always going to happen where some kid says something hurtful to another kid when he drops a ball, or does something that offends or is just acting stupid in the eyes of the beholder.
Part of growing up is learning how to deal with obnoxious people. As an example, my daughter has become adept at dishing out quick comebacks in these situations.
Raising awareness of bullying is good, but don't expect it to be stamped out completely.


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Posted by John Birch
a resident of Birdland
on Oct 22, 2015 at 8:23 am

Don't 'you' just love it when other people announce to 'you' how 'you' must feel? I know I do.

Tom's approach gives us limited analog choices in a digital world -- it's not that simple. Setting boundaries of acceptable behavior by anyone, enforcing them, teaching conflict resolution skills and acceptance of difference are essential parts of culture. They can be taught and modeled. That's not victimization -- it's learning mutual respect and coexistence on the road to maturity.

It's remarkable to me that Tom's approach is exemplified by P40's supportive post that yelps about Julie 'bullying' poor Tom, when all she really did was disagree. It reeks of the Fox News approach to we'n and they'n and 'we're losing the country and ain't it sad.' 'You' really are losing, but no, it ain't so sad.


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Posted by Damon
a resident of Foothill Knolls
on Oct 22, 2015 at 9:21 am

Little bullies grow up to be big bullies. Glad that Pleasanton and PUSD are taking steps to address these problems and to try to check them at an early stage.


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Posted by Ed
a resident of Pleasanton Meadows
on Oct 22, 2015 at 12:51 pm

To John Birch - P40 was pointing out the hipocrisy in the previous posters comments. It's hilarious the way he put it.
Seriously, I think it's good to learn how to respond to bullies, starting with our government who has grown soft on international bullies of all sorts.


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Posted by Ace
a resident of Pleasanton Valley
on Oct 22, 2015 at 1:11 pm

Why am I not surprised that Cholo says "yes" to orange?


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Posted by Ed
a resident of Pleasanton Meadows
on Oct 22, 2015 at 1:25 pm

"Students learn how to participate in positive group action and to respect the physical,emotional,and spiritual boundaries of others"

I like Cholo but try telling this to our enemies in the world who would love to destroy us. They'd get a good laugh out of it for sure.

This may be good for our little corner of the world but out on the main stage we're facing very violent men who have sworn repeatedly to bring down our country. Now that these little bullies have grown up to be big bullies, as Damon points out, what do we do now?


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Posted by John Birch
a resident of Birdland
on Oct 22, 2015 at 1:49 pm

Ah, I see now.

PUSD is supposed to help raise fact-free, fear-addled Republicans. They're doing their best with that kind of thing in Texas Web Link , but good riddance with it around here. .


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Posted by Ghost of Roger Fisher
a resident of another community
on Oct 23, 2015 at 8:13 am

Ed: I am concerned that you equate conflict resolution skills with weakness or appeasement. I think that's sloppy thinking on system and individual levels.

First of all, Unity Day is more about setting the community standards of intolerance to bullying -- not all behaviors are created equal, and bullying generally (and here) is out-of-bounds. In your 'dangerous world,' that's like the international community uniting bring pressure against those 'violent men,' in coalition. That's a whole lot better than assuming that the US is to be the world's policeman, or wild west sheriff, patrolling the frontier alone and inevitably making new enemies in the process. It's practicing prevention, which is (much) better than cure.

Secondly, on an individual level, it is important to deal with conflict having violence as a defense option, but as a last resort -- not the first. There are All Kinds of moves that can be made in advance of that point. That might seem unbelievable in a good guys/bad guys dichotomy, but it's almost always true. We're trying to raise our kids to see past simplistic demonizing and respond, not react, to conflict. Those very, very few evil, unalterably 'violent men' may have to be dealt-with via force, but let's not confuse them with the 99.5% of others who can be dealt-with better by "Getting to Yes." <-- Read my book.


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Posted by Ed
a resident of Pleasanton Meadows
on Oct 23, 2015 at 9:08 am

I completely support anti-bullying measures and agree 100% with the efforts of PUSD and others to promote this. This behavior should be seen as wrong and needs to be reinforced wherever and whenever we can.

I was just saying that in the world we live in there are people who don't get that, and don't want to play nice, and that it's unrealistic to think that more time and more money will make them "see the light". Of course we always want to first try Cholos' approach of respect and positivity.

There are some, that no matter what you approach you take, will not want to come to the table. ISIS, for example, is in the news today with a new video on YouTube threatening Jews worldwide with death.
How would suggest we handle a bully like this? Or should we just ignore it?
I agree that the US should not be the policeman of the world and I hate the fact that we still have troops in the Middle East. But sooner or later we're going to have to deal with this.

If a bully takes over a corner of the playground and we're on the opposite side, we're unaffected by this. But can we stand by and do nothing knowing that the bully is there tormenting our friends? Knowing that someday we'll come to school and we might find him in our corner?


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