Classes starting Oct. 1 offer help for parents with difficult teens

'Parent Project' open to residents of Pleasanton, other cities for a fee

Pleasanton Unified is launching a parent-involvement course that will help adults intervene with difficult adolescents.

The 10-week Parent Project course begins Oct. 1 and runs on Thursdays from 6-9 p.m. at Pleasanton Unified district offices, 4665 Bernal Ave.

The course is meant to help empower parents by giving them the tools to identify problems and intervene early when their teen is making negative choices.

The Parent Project covers improving school performance and attendance of teens ages 13 and older, addressing problematic behavior, improving self-esteem, identifying and intervening with drug and alcohol use, developing an action plan to deal with problems and managing general conflict at home.

To register, call Rae Huseman at 925-461-6117 or Kelly Mills at 925-461-6634. Dinner will be provided at the classes.

The class costs $25 per family for Pleasanton residents. For residents of other areas, the cost is $60 per individual and $100 per family.


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Posted by Local Dad
a resident of Birdland
on Sep 21, 2015 at 9:44 am

The best way to help kids with problems is to get the *OUT* of the Pleasanton school system.

The school system is the source of 80% of teen problems in this town. Depression, drugs, suicide and self harm---mostly stemming from the insane, soul-destroying levels of pressure and homework that the teachers force on kids.

Schools work the kids like dogs...13, 14 hours a day. Hours that few adults could endure, much less kids. No wonder the kids are all screwed up. "These kids have to work HARDER if they want to get into a college!" That's the reason given.

The "Parent Project" being hosted by the school is just another in a long series of ploys by the school district to distract parents from the fact that the school system is entirely toxic and destructive to their kids.

I got my daughter out of Foothill and sent her to a nice, relaxed private school. Yes it cost a lot of money but that's cheaper than the drug counseling, hospital bills that I see other Pleasanton parents paying.

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Posted by Tom
a resident of Carlton Oaks
on Sep 21, 2015 at 12:29 pm

I agree with Local Dad.

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Posted by Pleasanton Parent
a resident of Pleasanton Meadows
on Sep 21, 2015 at 7:40 pm

I think it should be mandatory for parental involvement if your child is falling behind or being problematic. Too many other kids and families that would love to be here.

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Posted by Map
a resident of Del Prado
on Sep 22, 2015 at 2:14 pm

Local dad---- WHAT????? Too many kids being treated like prima donnas, being spoiled rotten by their parents! Try some one on one with them, take away their cell phones, credit cards, and nice cars, a little walking never hurt anybody. My kids made it through just fine, had great teachers and were able to handle a full school load plus sports, and no complaining!!! Maybe they would have done as well at a " nice relaxed private school" but I'd rather see them be prepared for the real world!!

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Posted by Susanne
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 24, 2015 at 9:39 am

I AGREE with Local Dad too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by Local Dad
a resident of Birdland
on Sep 24, 2015 at 9:49 am


Glad to hear your kids did fine. I'm sure there is always a small percentage of kids who thrive under massive amounts of pressure. But there are many other kids who just aren't built that way. There are many of us parents who want our kids to be able to have dinner with the family, go to church, and do chores around the house. And get enough sleep so they don't turn into a neurotic mess.

Oh and please don't lecture about "taking away phones/keys". My kids have neither. No sloppy accusations of "prima donnas" is needed or helpful.

This isn't about spoiling kids. This is about viewing kids as "pieces of machinery" that the school can run faster, faster, faster, and then dump the consequences on the parents.

This is about the relentless doping of young kids, at the teachers insistence, to make then "perform better academically".

@Map are you in favor of giving children amphetamines just so they can do more homework? Because that's frequently what teachers are pushing for.

In Pleasanton a few years back there was a wholesale parental revolt. Meetings with school officials where 500 parents were mad as hell about homework. This was all in the newspapers, so don't act surprised. This is a continuing problem.

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Posted by Pleasanton parent
a resident of Pleasanton Meadows
on Sep 24, 2015 at 10:03 am

Local Dad,
You're presenting a single experience and presenting it as common practice. It is not, and shame on you for trying to link something that was a larger issue in with your experience to make it appear there is public support around teachers being meth pushers.

Your desire for you kids to have a life as you've described is ok, but know life has changed (for better and worse) and your lifestyle choices will come with consequences (good and bad) for your kids. Don't complain when your kids can't afford to live in Pleasanton because they can't get a high paying job ghat someone else was willing to give up some of the other niceties you've described to get that job. Balance in life is required. Yes, but it's not necessary the balance you've described

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Posted by Jason
a resident of Oak Hill
on Sep 24, 2015 at 12:12 pm

@Local Dad

As someone who lives near Foothill High, I can attest to the fact that there are many Pleasanton students who have the time and energy to spend all day in the hot sun on weekends from morning till evening in band practice and other activities. Many a cold night I've come home and heard the sounds of laughter and yelling coming from the direction of the HS campus from students enjoying a football practice or other activity in the wind and drizzle and thought to myself how nice it would be to be young like that again. Given how many students can handle the time and energy demands associated with such extracurricular activities, I'm going to guess that more than a few students are fine with the amount of homework that is given.

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Posted by Fanatics
a resident of Another Pleasanton neighborhood
on Sep 24, 2015 at 12:39 pm

The band program is run like a military school. Yes teachers recommend Ritalin as an amphetamine

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Posted by Local Dad
a resident of Birdland
on Sep 24, 2015 at 4:58 pm

@Pleasanton parent, you said: "You're presenting a single experience and presenting it as common practice. It is not"

Yes, it is. I've talked to many other parents in my neighborhood and in local church groups. At least 1/3 of them have been told "you should have your kid checked for ADHD" -- in every single time, the issue was, the kid was resisting doing the mountains of homework that were thrown on them. The ADHD comments were a strategy for the teacher to deflect parent's complaints.

Pleasanton is statistically one of the highest levels of ADHD and antidepressant usage by teens of any community. Parents commonly relate that they feel pressure from teachers to medicate.

Put those two facts together and stop the hand-waving and denial tactics.

By the way, this isn't confined to Pleasanton. Several states had such a big problem with this, they were forced to pass statewide bans that prevented teachers from advocating doping kids.

So yes, it is "larger issue" and there is absolutely no shame on me, as a parent, for pointing it out. We need more parents...a LOT start questioning the schools on this issue.

I'd also point out that my comments are perfectly appropriate when the topic of the article, as you might notice, is "Classes for parents with difficult teens".

@Jason... this school district already faced some massive parental action *against* excessive homework. Hundreds of angry parents overflowing meeting rooms. So denial of the issue is a waste of time. It's already documented in a hundred ways, in public forums, including the New York Times. Google it.

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Posted by Good
a resident of Castlewood
on Sep 24, 2015 at 6:43 pm

Demand will become harder not easier in future. Chinese go to school six day and Sunday is Chinese school so very competitive. More and more Chinese move to Pleasanton all the time so competition harder.

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Posted by Dark Father
a resident of Ruby Hill
on Sep 24, 2015 at 6:53 pm

I have talked to literally thousands of parents. At least 70% of them have asked if teachers have recommended that I have my child checked for ADHD, which as every thinking person knows, is exactly the same as pushing amphetamines. In my experience with these thousands of parents, only a small percentage of them have kids who have been successful. Most kids here in Pleasanton end up failures, data shows that, and it also shows that it's because of the teachers.

If my three children end up failures, I'll blame the school system, too. I think most of us know that these teachers went in to education because they have a hidden desire to be drug dealers; this gives them an opportunity to make their dreams come true legally. The number of parents in Pleasanton, 2 by my count, claiming this prove it's true.

Thank you, Local Dad, for showing us the power of an anonymous person behind a keyboard. We, too, can show that our anecdotal experience is the norm, and that anyone who believes our teachers are not drug pushers is deluded. Ask your kids and your friends how many teachers are trying to get them to smoke crack to improve performance. I'm sure you'll be surprised by the answer.

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Posted by Good
a resident of Castlewood
on Sep 24, 2015 at 7:22 pm

All parents above have one stay at home parent to help children? I think very important otherwise they fail.

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Posted by Pleasanton parent
a resident of Pleasanton Meadows
on Sep 24, 2015 at 8:22 pm

Teachers cannot diagnos or prescribe medication. The people you should be angry at are the doctors over diagnosing and the parents not questioning the diagnosis.

Yes attention deficit disorder is over diagnosed, but not so by teachers. If anything its a nice way of them saying "you're kid is not paying attention, please do something about it"

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Posted by Map
a resident of Del Prado
on Sep 24, 2015 at 9:37 pm

What a bunch of loonies!! If you people really are parents then there are some bigger problems here starting with the parents. Where are these students that can't seem to handle what every kid is having to deal with?? Time to "buck up" and handle it, kids and parents alike, the REAL world moves a lot faster. Let's quit trashing the teachers and get the Homefront shipshape and quit passing the buck!! Just wait till they hit college or the military or try to enter the workplace, WOW, K-12 was a cakewalk.

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Posted by reson mustpreval
a resident of Birdland
on Sep 26, 2015 at 8:55 am

All above make good snark necessary. I always found pusd offers something for everyone. unfortunately I learned - and we as a family learned - a lot of lessons as we went along. Hence my aversion to snark. My kids were smart in school but felt tons of pressure. They did sports and felt tons of pressure. Now they have jobs and feel tons of pressure. What are the lessons? Family/faith come first. A good therapist is golden, ap classes not necessary (and if u major in that subject u have to take it over anyway), a hobby or passion outside school can save you, travel is broadening, community college is hidden treasure and finally, life offers many opportunities to start over. So parents above, support each other...your kids are going to b awesome humans!

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