Limbic resonance is when we become attuned to each others' emotional state. Limbic regulation is ". . . to adjust and fortify one another's fragile neural rhythms in the collaborative dance of love." Limbic revision is the " . . . power to remodel the emotional parts of the people we love." The authors continue, "Who we are and who we become depends, in part, on who we love."
This takes the idea of power to a completely new level. Our ability to attune emotionally to one another can heal -- or harm --another, and will certainly restructure the brain of each person, throughout one's entire life.
Since we hold the power to emotionally remodel our partner, that raises many questions. How do I remodel with integrity? How am I remodeling in ways in which I am unaware? How can I do this well, with a good heart, despite my own unfinished business?
What am I doing when I show emotional attunement, love, compassion, listen well without giving advice or fixing? I am shaping a loving, secure attachment and connection. What am I doing when I disconnect, withdraw, yell, criticize, show contempt, become defensive? Probably feeling unsafe or anxious and trying to protect myself. But this is a downward spiral that needs to be interrupted and healthier limbic regulation/revision is needed.
In therapy or counseling, limbic revision is done by presence and attunement (limbic resonance and regulation) and experimentation with new tools and skills (limbic revision). This is the art and science of therapy. "A General Theory of Love" put into practice.
(For further definition and a few more details about this fabulous book, see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limbic_regulation)