That's the outside. We have no idea what is on the inside. Many of us have a "Gremlin" (from Rick Carson's "Taming Your Gremlin") saying we're not good enough, or we made a mistake, or we're not lovable, or we're bad and not worthy, or we better keep putting on a good show otherwise people will find out what we're really like. Or maybe we're grieving the death of our mom, son, brother, dad, sister, daughter, cousin, grandparent, friend, or partner, and just trying to make it. Maybe a loved one is away at war, or battling cancer, and we're putting one foot in front of the other to get through this day. Or maybe my partner hardly talks to me anymore or we sleep apart, but we don't want anyone to know. Or . . . we can't begin to guess.
Any day can be hard because of the gap between the media/Norman Rockwell happy family, and the reality of our own situation. The gaps may be about a variety of things: family, your partner, money, who does "all" the work, alcohol consumption, power, etc.
Please do not compare your insides to others' outsides. We have no idea what they are going through. Instead, focus on self-care, and what is in our realm of control. Breathe, exercise (even if just a little bit), drink a lot water, eat healthy food, be kind to yourself and those around you.
Notice your Gremlin and say "Hi," but don't give yourself over it it. Find a realistic and constructive answer to your Gremlin.
Ask yourself these three questions, and act on your answers:
1."What is in my control?"
2."What are my options? (seek three)"
3."What works best in THIS situation?"
Be sure to maintain your integrity and be kind to yourself and others, no matter what you decide.
Think about helping someone (even one person) who needs help, even in a small way. It will help you , and them. It will be much more fruitful than comparing yourself to others.